Sam. Conqueror. Overcomer.

"IN ALL THINGS WE ARE MORE THAN CONQUERORS THROUGH HIM WHO LOVES US : Samuel was born on 15th May 2009, two months early and in respiratory distress. After an initial Apgar score of 1, he was taken to the NICU and placed on a ventilator, together with an undeterminable amount of tubes, IV’s and monitors which made it almost impossible to see the little Smurfie character lying within…slightly blue and only three apples high. Sam was diagnosed within 24 hours with Rubinstein-Taybi Syndrome, a scarce medical advantage as, due to the rare occurrence of the Syndrome and the limited medical literature on it, many individuals are only diagnosed well into adulthood and some never at all. The page-long list of medical/health issues related to the syndrome, while vital in providing a prognosis and compiling a care plan, took a backseat, however, as Sam’s struggle to breathe and swallow became the primary focus of our concerns and prayers, deepened only by the heartache of not being allowed to hold and comfort him for the first ten days of his already traumatic life. After seven weeks Sam was successfully weaned from the oxygen but was still dependent on a nasal gastric tube for feeding, with which he was eventually discharged. Once home, what should have been a precious time to recover from the stress of the NICU and enjoy a relaxed and cherished time together, instead became a seemingly-endless timeline of specialist appointments, therapies, illnesses and surgeries as that page-long list of medical complexities came into play, affecting every part of Sam…physically, neurologically, medically and emotionally. Yet, despite these challenges and an “ineducable” future being predicted when his prognosis was delivered, Sam showed a delightful potential and eagerness for learning. Unfortunately though, this learning potential seemed limited to his cognitive abilities as, physically, Sam’s development lagged significantly behind that of his RTS peers. A week before his 5th birthday a brain MRI confirmed that, in addition to the RTS, Sam also has Periventricular Leukomalacia and Static Leukoencephalopathy (included under the umbrella diagnosis of Cerebral Palsy), which would more than likely have occurred as a result of the oxygen deprivation experienced leading up to and/or during his birth. Thirteen years later and with a number of surgeries and medical procedures which appear to be in fierce competition for their own “page-long list” (which surgeries and their subsequent recoveries have left Sam to face his day-to-day life with a residue of unshakeable anxieties and phobias), the boy you meet face-to-face…with his cheeky sense of humour, unfathomable joy and fierce warrior spirit…make it almost impossible to believe that that disheartening brain MRI and poor medical prognosis are of the same kid. As we begin to navigate this journey with a newly aged differently-abled teenager, leaving behind the little smurf whose fears and discomforts could so easily be remedied with a cuddle on mom’s lap, the anxiety of more surgeries and medical challenges now compounded by the universal fear of every differently-abled child’s parent/s (who will take care of their child once their own time here is gone) threatens to become overwhelming. But then the excitement of a horseriding lesson, the sheer delight of spotting a balloon (especially a hot air balloon) or a super silly giggle caused by simply hearing someone sneeze provides a beautiful reminder of the profound joy and courage these children radiate, despite their overwhelming challenges, and it provides the perfect encouragement and inspiration for facing your own. #samtheconqueror
SAMUEL - COMPLETE IN GOD
Our world has crashed, been blown apart.
This can't be happening....why us? Why now?
Your fragile life shaken before it could barely start,
How do we get through this...please, Lord, tell us how?

Drowning in our sorrow, waiting for answers that just don't come.
Our baby "special needs"? It simply can't be true!
The heartache overwhelms us, we're left feeling cold and numb.
The diagnosis tells us little - these children are so few.

But then we finallyget to touch you, to see your precious face
And all the heartache and questions fade, replaced with love and pride.
It's obvious from the very start you're showered in God's grace,
And with His love and guidance, we'll take this challenge in stride.

When once we couldn't pronounce it, Rubinstein-Taybi's become our norm.
When once the future seemed dark, we now welcome the journey as having an RTS angel brings lessons in unexpected form.

Our world has crashed, been blown apart!
This IS happening....to us.....right now!
We've been blessed with a gift, so precious from the very start. How do we get through this? Here's how.....
By believing in a God, so merciful and great,
By trusting that He's right beside us as we journey through the narrow gate.
By believing His love for us is not determined by a human frame,
By trusting that we draw Him near by merely calling His name. This precious baby we asked God for,
Prayed he'd be perfect and complete.
And, as Samuel means "God hears", He's laid His answer at our feet.

(Nicky de Beer : 27/05/2010)

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

I'll huff....and I'll puff.....

and I'll blow your house down...and all the trees and fences and billboards and thirty-story buildings and maybe even a mountain or two, said the GIANT wolf to the little town. YIKES! So, in case you're wondering what nonsense I am talking now....we're experiencing a slight little breeze here in Cape Town (and they call Port Elizabeth the "Windy City"???!!!) So it made our appointment at Red Cross Childrens Hospital ( Take a peak) this morning just that much more entertaining. Firstly, I was last there about nine years ago (when we had a cancer scare with Meghan - a story for another day) and Chris has never been there so we were slightly clueless as to where was the best place to park in order to avoid been blown off our feet on the way into the hospital...not that there was loads of parking, well that we knew of anyway. So found a parking space, headed towards the building basically following everyone else into this one entrance and, just to make sure we were going the right way, still stopped and asked one staff member where the "Main Entrance" is. He confirmed we were following correctly so we headed through those doors. Once inside the security guard informed us we must go round to the "Main Entrance" (Huh?). Out into the slight breeze again and in at "Main Entrance". Go to Reception who advises us we actually need to go through the OTHER "Main Entrance"! Seriously? Hee Hee! It was actually quite funny, gave Chris and I something to laugh about to take the edge off our nerves. On the way out we shared the lift with ten Grade Two's (or around that age). Chris, being Chris, tried to scare them a little by saying something along the lines of there are loads of doctors walking around with huge big needles. They all looked at him rather google-eyed, while I slapped him on his arm for trying to make them nervous even though he himself is rather scared of needles. Anyway, their teacher told us that the one little boy is having heart surgery within the next two weeks so they are all pretty used to needles by now.

So, that was our trip to Red Cross this morning. Feels like I am leaving something out....oh yes, Sam's actual appointment. Knew there was an actual point to this post - for a change. So, after another thorough examination and reviewing again the pro's and con's of the surgery, Sam will, in all probability, be going in the week of December 6th, theatre availability permitting. And? And...both Chris and I are confident in Prof F's expertise and judgement and feel 100% certain that this truly is in Sam's best interest. So yes, we will be nervous about the operation and saddened at the thought of Sam experiencing more pain and trauma during the recovery period, but our hearts are at ease that there is no other way and we are not subjecting him to this procedure unnecessarily.

2 comments:

  1. Happy Anniversary! Ours is tomorrow as well!

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  2. Happy Anniversary to you and Chris...take the plunge Brampa is very capable and it will make you feel a lot better having had a gap for awhile.

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